Writer: Ritika Sharma
What is love?
Once a friend asked me, frankly even I don’t know. But what I know is we can’t merge love with relationships. Generally, when people are asked about love, they start talking about their relationship and I get confused!
Are they convincing others or themselves? For me, love is when one says “acha lgta hai” it means when you like something or someone without any reason when you don’t think about the pros and cons, or profit and loss, but loving someone is feeling happy to be with them and the point is you don’t know why you feel like you love him or her. Love can be with an object, a person, place or anything whereas relationships are built on mutual needs. In a relationship, the general needs are like physical,
financial, and emotional one. A relationship is an agreement between two people where they live
together and grow their family. Love is unconditional and it is not bound to be in
a relationship only.
Good relation demands time you devote, care, love, financial stability, good sex and the most important part is equality! When both of the partners put equal efforts to hold on in the relationship.
Sometimes in a relationship, people don’t get the things they want in a relationship
and to complete their unsatisfactory desires, rather sharing their problems, they approach
another person to complete their desire. When they satisfied with their particular need from a different person, they start naming it as love, Is it what we call love? What do you think!
And after a while, they start confusing this act with love and they start getting doubtful about their relationships, and sometimes they even feel guilty about it and get frustrated in their life. The whole relationship word becomes like a cage to them.
There is another case where you got all the things from the partner you want but still, you start liking another person without any reason, that’s what we can say is love and in this particular case, we
again feel that we are cheating on our partner because we think that we are bound to only love the person we are in relation with.
This is what the relation demand, to be true to your partner but it doesn’t mean that you can’t be in love with another person. Like if you have a toy, you restrict yourself to like another toy because you are supposed to like that one toy you have until it got broken.
Is it fair!
To love someone only means to feel it. It does not mean to play with another person’s emotion or to hurt another person in this feeling game while you are in a happy relationship.
It is not necessary that we love the person we are in a relationship with or we can’t be in a relationship with every person we love. Love is like a flowing river it has no boundaries but
the relationship has its own limitation.
Although, lucky are those who are in love with the same person they are in a relationship with.
Often after having a relation, we start taking it for granted or sometimes after satisfying the needs of a person, we forgot to love him/her. And sometimes we only love the person while ignoring other important things they want from us. These all are the loopholes in relationships.
Not talking about problems, the person feels in relations and accepting the situation as their own destiny is something that is commonly happened but shouldn’t be practised.
In our life relationship plays a
crucial part. Humankind can’t live without family or relations but these are the most
affected situation of today’s era. A lot of people are running behind money, love is lost somewhere.
Love is not something to search in someone’s eyes but to make someone happy with your warmth and care and that’s
where you feel loved or you find love.
So I don’t know what love is! but surely it’s not limited to relationship